The Retreat House Suite 3: The Gay Bean Dion Suite

French's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography

As we do almost every winter, this season was spent completing a number of major maintenance and repair projects to keep our beautiful buildings and grounds in top working order. We also completed a major renovation to the bedroom suites on the second and third floors of the Retreat House. I have shared with you the details of the newly refurbished Top Level Apartment in the Retreat House, Suite 1 and Suite 2, both located on the second floor, in recent posts.  

The second level of the Retreat House now offers four newly renovated suites with en suite bathrooms and six total bedrooms on this floor. All of the rooms on the top, second level and main floor of the Retreat House have been dedicated to family members and dear friends that played a key role in our stewardship of this property. Suite 3- The Gay Bean Dion Suite is our largest suite with a massive ocean view deck with hammock, hammock chairs, cafe table and chairs to take in the views. The room also offers a sitting area and an en suite bathroom with tub/shower unit.   

When we first opened the Retreat House in 2006, I had connected with a childhood friend that had grown up here on the point with my father in the summer times. Her name is Gay Bean Dion. She became a very dear friend and worked very hard to help get the Retreat House up and running. My children know her as “Nanny Gay”. She just recently moved to Rhode Island to be closer to family and we miss her (and her cookies). I dedicated the room to her because she was such a good friend and like a mother to me in some ways. The views from this room really are remarkable, just like Gay. This room is special to me because I lived in it for a time with my wee little girl, Bailey. She learned to walk in this room. Her swinging cradle made by my father used to hang next to my bed and the breeze blowing in from the ocean rocked her to sleep on summer nights.   

We will share the details of the other Retreat House Suites  & enhancements in upcoming posts. We hope you love them as much as we do.  

French's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 3 - The Retreat House - Maine Vacation Home - Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Photography by Greta Tucker

What To Wear To A Wedding

Wedding Guest Attire: What to Wear to a Wedding - Wedding Dress Attire Formality _ Greta Tucker Photography

Informing your guests of the level of formality of your wedding day may feel like a daunting task. Our friends at The Black Tux have created a way to make this process a little bit simpler. Once you have chosen your wedding gown, your venue, the vision of the decor, your rentals, and your menu and meal service style,  it is important to educate your guests on what to wear to this celebratory event.  Your guests will thank you for making this clear.

The Use of Pinterest

One way to educate them is through Pinterest. We created an example board called, “Be Our Guest” that helps you envision what we have seen at French’s Point. You can use our board, or create your own to help you guests follow your overall dress formality for your big day. The most popular dress codes we have seen at French’s Point are a mix between Beach Formal and Black Tie Optional where guests are wearing a mixture of florals and heels and summer suits and ties.

Informing Your Guests on Your Wedding Website

Without your guests seeing the decor and all the fine details coming together, the design of the invitation might not be enough to inform them of what to wear. Another way we suggest educating your friends and family about what you wear is on your wedding website or app. You may not have room on your invitation to say more than a couple words about the dress code, but on your website, you can share the definition from The Black Tux or share links to places such as a Pinterest board or blog post.

Don’t Forget to Dress in Layers!

And don’t forget! We always suggest informing your guests that they prepare to dress in layers to accommodate rising and falling temperatures over the course of the day. No matter if you are having a winter, fall, summer or spring celebration, we always want you and your guests to be comfortable for whatever weather that blows our way!

Wedding Guest Style Guide_The Black Tux: What to wear to a wedding, Wedding guest attire: Coastal Maine Wedding Venue: French's Point

Wedding Guest Attire: What to Wear to a Wedding - Wedding Dress Attire Formality _ Greta Tucker Photography

Wedding Guest Attire: What to Wear to a Wedding - Wedding Dress Attire Formality _ Greta Tucker Photography

Photography by Greta Tucker

The Retreat House Suite 2: The May Harris Suite

French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography

As we do almost every winter, the season was spent completing a number of major maintenance and repair projects to keep our beautiful buildings and grounds in top working order. We also completed a major renovation to the bedroom suites on the second and third floors of the Retreat House. I will share with you the details of the newly refurbished Top Level Apartment in the Retreat House and Suite 1, located on the second floor, in future posts.  

The second level of the Retreat House now offers four newly renovated suites with en suite bathrooms and six total bedrooms on this floor. All of the rooms on the top, second level and main floor of the Retreat House have been dedicated to family members and dear friends that played a key role in our stewardship of this property. Suite 2- The Maybel Harris Brooks Suite (my personal favorite on the second level) has a king bedroom with a gorgeous en suite bathroom with new fixtures, a claw-foot soaking tub, and new tiled shower glass enclosure. And private partially covered balcony with cafe tables and chairs, swinging beds and hammock chairs.  The views from this suite are breathtaking. The blue and gray touches in the bedroom bring the water view inside and make this room very soothing.

One of the reasons that I love this room so much is because I have some wonderful memories sitting with my dear grandmother Maybel Harris Brooks the day after my wedding. I remember her soft white hair gleaming in the sunshine that day and her stunning smile. She was a very special lady to me. She was my Matron of Honor and this lovely lady (from whom I get my spunk and determination) is a big part of why we became the stewards of French’s Point.

We will share the details of the other Retreat House Suites  & enhancements in upcoming posts. We hope you love them as much as we do.

 

French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker PhotographyFrench's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography French's Point - Suite 2 - Retreat House - Family Vacation Home Rental - Destination Wedding Venue - Greta Tucker Photography

The Retreat House Suite 1: The Reginald Perry Suite

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

As we do almost every winter, the season was spent completing a number of major maintenance and repair projects to keep our beautiful buildings and grounds in top working order. We also completed a major renovation to the bedroom suites on the second and third floors of the Retreat House. I will share with you the details of the newly refurbished Top Level Apartment in the Retreat House in a later post.  

The second level of the Retreat House now offers four newly renovated suites with en suite bathrooms and six total bedrooms on this floor. All of the rooms on the top, second level and main floor of the Retreat House have been dedicated to family members and dear friends that played a key role in our stewardship of this property. Suite 1- The Reginald Perry Suite has two spacious, adjoining king bedrooms with water views and a shared, updated en suite bathroom with gorgeous glass shower enclosure and travertine tile.  These lovely suites overlook the shoreline, tent and the Family Tree to the West.

Our little family (me, my husband Fred, and our four kiddos, Bailey, Payton, Camden & Bristol) lived in this suite for a 8 years before we outgrew the space. Can you imagine?!? I have some wonderful memories of my time spent with my sweet babies in this space. This room is named for Reginald Perry, my father’s dear friend from high school and college. “Uncle Reggie” as I know him, is a CPA (like my husband) and a business advisor and his company helped us define a sustainable path for our stewardship of the properties here at French’s Point. Though I do not see Uncle Reggie often, I adore him and am grateful for his support and counsel. This is a special room in name and in nature. I am sure you will love it.

We will share the details of the other Retreat House Suites  & enhancements in upcoming posts. We hope you love them as much as we do.

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

French's Point: The Retreat House Suite 1: Family Rental Home, Wedding Venue, Coastal Maine Lodging, Destination, Oceanside Water Views - Rachael Anderson Photography

 

The Beginning Of Our Season

Map of French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding Venue and Vacation Home Rental: Newly Renovated, Refurnished, and Updated

This week, we kick off our 2018 season after a winter of renovations at the Retreat House. I am beyond excited to share with our couple, their family and friends the fruits of our labor. We are pushing hard to make everything perfect for their arrival, in spite of the LONG winter and the snow that still lingers on the west side of the estate. Perhaps today it will settle into the earth and make way for the forget-me-nots!  

An army of family and friends made these dreams come true. We are so proud of the artists and craftsmen that joined our family team. We partnered with other family businesses that are helping us provide comfort to our guests and care to our homes, so you can feel at home here. I will share some details about them in upcoming posts. I can’t wait to tell you all about them!

Vendor Spotlight: Greta Tucker Photography

Greta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding

French’s Point is excited to continue our series of blog posts spotlighting amazing Maine wedding vendors that help to make weddings & milestone celebrations at our waterfront estate memorable and meaningful. This series will showcase some of the best providers from our vibrant, talented, dedicated wedding industry community we are so proud to be a part of here in Maine and New England. This group of professional wedding vendors understands and adheres to our guiding principles for the service we endeavor to provide our clients: Be Responsive, Be Kind, Provide Excellent Customer Service, Provide the Very Best Product/Service. Because of these wonderful people, the celebrations here are magical.  

In this post, I would like to introduce you to my friend Greta of Greta Tucker Photography. Greta offers fine art photography.  Her work is vibrant, elegant and timeless. It is formal and immortalizing. It is also candid and intimate. Greta has a strong sense of family relationships and the traditions and values at the heart of them.  She understands the profound nature of the milestone moments she is charged with capturing for her couples and does so in a vibrant manner, every time. She was born in Armenia, raised in Russia and now lives here in Maine with her husband, her adorable daughter and sweet son.  She has been working as a wedding photographer for 5 years and has been published in top including Brides, Burnett’s Boards, Bridal Guide, The Venue Report and 100 Layer Cake.   

Allow me to introduce my sweet and talented friend, Greta Tucker.

 

How long have you been operating your business?

I have been photographing weddings for the past 5 years.

 

How would you describe your style?

I am a fine art wedding photographer and above all it is about making beautiful, vibrant images, that are timeless and elegant.

 

What lead you to be a wedding photographer?

Having lived in different countries gave me an in-depth understanding and appreciation for culture, traditions, family values. Of all traditions, I believe that marriage is one of the most important milestones in a person’s life and being able to document this day is a dream come true for me.

 

What is your favorite moment to photograph on the wedding day?

I adore photographing the ceremony and particularly the moment the groom sees his bride (even if they chose to have the first look before the ceremony).

 

Do you have a favorite spot at French’s Point to photograph couples?

One of my absolute favorites is the location directly behind the gazebo, you have the most breathtaking view.

 

Do you suggest having a second shooter at a French’s Point wedding?

This is one of the must haves in wedding photography, especially if you are inviting over 100 guests.

 

How many hours of coverage do you suggest for a French’s Point wedding?

Number of hours always depends on the needs of the couple and ideally I recommend that coverage begins no later than 60 minutes before the bride gets dressed and 60 minutes into the dance party.

 

What is your favorite day trip in Maine?

One of my new favorites is Otter Cliff in Acadia National Park. We love exploring and finding new stunning locations with my family and always end up using these locations for engagement photoshoots with my couples.

Greta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Photographer Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine WeddingGreta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Photographer Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding

Greta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Photographer Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding

Greta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine WeddingGreta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding  Greta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Photographer Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding

Greta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Photographer Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding

Greta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Photographer Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding

Greta Tucker Photography - Maine Wedding Greta Tucker Photography: Maine Wedding Photographer Vendor Spotlight at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding Spotlight at French's Point

Owner Name: Greta Tucker

Business Name: Greta Tucker Photography

Address: 17 Graham Hill Rd #17

City/State/Zip: Westbrook

Phone: 207-294-2993

Email: [email protected]

Website: gretatuckerphoto.com

Facebook:  https://www.facebook.com/GretaTuckerPhotography/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/gretatucker/

Ten Year Wedding Anniversary

Greta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of Maine

“I took one look at you

That’s all I meant to do

And my heart stood still.”

– Lorenz Hart “My Heart Stood Still” 

Somehow, in the blink of an eye, ten years of marriage has come to pass between my soul mate and me. Life has been so busy with four small (but growing) children, lots of family, perpetual changes and busy careers in family businesses. We don’t take the time we should to pause and honor of these milestones. I often feel too busy to breathe in these moments, let alone be still in them and soak them in. Well, this year, we decided we needed to do just that. We are learning, after all. We knew we could not take that honeymoon we have been putting off all this time. But we carved out a beautiful afternoon and made some memories together. Thank you to our talented friends for helping us feel the love and see the magic that remains and grows with each passing day: Greta Tucker Photography, Flora Fauna, Jessica Candage, Blush Bridal.

  

Greta Tucker Photography - Jessika and Fred's Anniversary - French's Point Maine Winter Wedding

Greta Tucker Photography - Jessika and Fred's Anniversary - French's Point Maine Winter Wedding

Greta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of MaineGreta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of Maine

Greta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of Maine

Greta Tucker Photography Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of MaineGreta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of Maine - Flower CrownGreta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of Maine

Greta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of Maine

Jessika&Greta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of Maine - Flora Fauna Flowers

Greta Tucker Photography - Ten Year Wedding Anniversary - French's Point Winter Wedding on the Coast of Maine

 

Including Pets In Your Maine Wedding

Emily Delamater Photography - Pets in your Maine Wedding at French's Point on the Coast of Maine

You invite all of your nearest and dearest to celebrate your wedding festivities, have you considered including your four-legged pet friends as well?

We are pet-friendly at French’s Point and would love for you to bring them along to be a part of your Maine wedding! Dogs are always a welcomed addition to the big day, and many times they play an important role in the wedding party: carrying a sign or acting as an usher or ring bearer.

Things to Think About When Including Your Pets

  1. First of all, make sure your venue allows pets – French’s Point allows well-behaved pets that are current on their immunizations, are crated when left alone in our lodgings, and have a handler.
  2. Then consider how you want your pet to participate in your ceremony. Do you want him to have a central role? As in walking down the aisle as a flower-bearer? Or do you want her in the audience with other family?
  3. Once you’ve figured out what role you want your pet to play, you need to find someone to be in charge of him. This person will walk him where he needs to go, hold onto his leash during the ceremony, and, most importantly, take him elsewhere to discretely do his business if nature calls. Keep in mind that a guest who acts as your pet-wrangler won’t be able to really relax and enjoy your wedding, so consider hiring a pet sitter.

When deciding whether to include a pet, you and your partner should be honest about the risks. Dogs bark, cats can cower or hiss, pigs snort, and as I’ve already mentioned, any pet could make a mess at the worst, possible time.

Still, with a little planning and some practice, a well-behaved pet can make a memorable and adorable addition to the ceremony. And for plenty of pet-lovers, it’s not a question of whether or not to include your best friend in your wedding, it’s simply a matter of how best to make it happen!

“For plenty of pet-lovers, it’s not a question of whether or not to include your best friend in your wedding, it’s simply a matter of how best to make it happen!” – French’s Point

Check out some of our past canine guests below.

Featured photo by Cuppa Photography.

Pets in Your Coastal Maine Wedding at French's Point | Emily Delamater Photography
Emily Delamater Photography
Adorable dogs in Maine weddings | Cuppa Photography
Cuppa Photography
Dogs and Pets at Your Maine Wedding at French's Point | Cuppa Photography
Cuppa Photography
Dogs and Pets at your Maine Wedding at French's Point | Kelci Alane Photography
Kelci Alane Photography
Adorable Dogs and Pets at Your Maine Wedding at French's Point | Mikhail Glabets Photography
Mikhail Glabets Photography
Dogs or Pets in your Maine Wedding at French's Point | Christy Murray Photography
Christy Murray Photography
Dogs at a French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding | Michele Stapleton Photography
Michele Stapleton Photography
Adorable Dogs and Pets at Your French's Point Coastal Maine Wedding | Michele Stapleton Photography
Michele Stapleton Photography

9 Things To Do After You’re Engaged

Just Engaged Tips - Maine Weddings

Maybe you’re newly engaged, or perhaps you expect your special someone might pop the question any time. Here’s what to do after you say “Yes!”

1) You’re Engaged, Soak It In

Take the time to soak in the moment and revel in the love and joy of this special moment. This is the only time you’re going to experience being engaged, so savor every second.

2) Share The News

Make the time to share the big news about your engagement with your nearest and dearest over a phone call, FaceTime or Skype. To avoid hurt feeling, don’t share the news on your social streams until you’ve told those closest to you.

3) Get Engagement Ring Insurance

Get insurance for that beautiful engagement ring.

4) Set Priorities

Sit down with your beloved over coffee or cocktails and discuss the vision of your wedding experience. Determine your mutual priorities before you start scheduling tours or making plans. Place the things you agree on at the top of the list and come to an agreement of the placement of the other items on the list. You will be so glad you did.  

5) Define a Wedding Budget

Talk with the members of your tribe that may be contributing financially to the celebration and define the level of investment you are comfortable making in this experience. This will allow you to shop more effectively for wedding day partners and save you lots of time as you go.

6) Draft Your Guest List

To know if your venue will work within your budget, you will need a solid guest list first. Do this before you begin your venue search.

7) Set the Date

Identify your availability, preferred season, and dates to celebrate.

8) Book Your Venue

Once you have considered your options and confirmed they are within budget, it’s time to reserve your venue.

9) Hire a Wedding Planner!

Hire an experienced wedding professional to bring your wedding vendor team together and bring your vision to life.

Featured photo by Cuppa Photography.

Tips for a Successful Wedding Weekend

Maine wedding officiant | French's Point Vendor Spotlight: A Sweet Start | Haven Photography

Weddings are among the few events in our lives when nearly everyone we know and love is gathered in one place. That’s why so many couples are extending their weddings beyond the ceremony and reception to include a full weekend of fun and events. Welcome receptions, farewell brunches and group outings give everyone more time to reconnect and savor the celebration.

Planning a multi-day event comes with some additional considerations:

Head count. When brides and grooms invest time and effort into planning a long weekend of wedding events, attendance rates tend to rise. Guests seize the opportunity to both celebrate with the happy couple and enjoy a mini-vacation or family reunion. At French’s Point, guests often fill the time leading up to and following the main event with jaunts to Bar Harbor, gallery tours in Belfast and other excursions. Only about 10% of invited guests decline to attend single-day events at our estate (lower than the national average), and even fewer RSVP with regrets for multi-day weddings.

Budget. Hosting an event over several days does add to expenses, but the largest budget driver is the head count. Plan well ahead to nail down the final guest list with enough time to make adjustments. If more people decline than you anticipated, use the savings to plan a bonus event, like a welcome cocktail reception, or add a new element to a meal, such as hors d’oeuvres.

Lead time. Give guests as much advance notice as possible if you’re asking them to travel more than an hour, especially on holiday weekends when competing vacation plans are likely. Send out save-the-dates when you have a general idea of the weekend’s itinerary, and ideally also a wedding website with travel, accommodation and activity information. A good rule of thumb is to send out invites 120 days ahead of the wedding and give guests 6 weeks to respond, giving you a final head count a comfortable 30 to 60 days prior to the event. Keep in mind that “fringe guests” — the ones couples feel obligated to invite but don’t expect to show up — might be more likely to attend after perusing an appealing itinerary for weeks in advance.

Itineraries. We recommend leaving 40% to 50% of each day open to give guests a mix of scheduled events and free time. While your wedding party may have additional obligations, your guests will appreciate unstructured pockets of time to browse art galleries, charter a schooner, go for a hike, or indulge other interests. Guests making the special effort to attend with children, especially, will be grateful to sneak in naps and down time. Post suggested activities to your wedding website or pop a list in guests’ welcome bags.

Juggling act. Planning a full weekend of events can prove challenging for even the most organized brides. Consider delegating some peripheral events or activities to a planner or family member. After all, your guests have traveled a long way to see you. Devote your time to loves ones, not checklists.