9 Things To Do After You’re Engaged

Maybe you’re newly engaged, or perhaps you expect your special someone might pop the question any time. Here’s what to do after you say “Yes!”

1) You’re Engaged, Soak It In

Take the time to soak in the moment and revel in the love and joy of this special moment. This is the only time you’re going to experience being engaged, so savor every second.

2) Share The News

Make the time to share the big news about your engagement with your nearest and dearest over a phone call, FaceTime or Skype. To avoid hurt feelings, don’t share the news on your social streams until you’ve told those closest to you.

3) Get Engagement Ring Insurance

Get insurance for that beautiful engagement ring.

4) Set Priorities

Sit down with your beloved over coffee or cocktails and discuss the vision of your wedding experience. Determine your mutual priorities before you start scheduling tours or making plans. Place the things you agree on at the top of the list and come to an agreement of the placement of the other items on the list. You will be so glad you did.  

5) Define a Wedding Budget

Talk with the members of your tribe that may be contributing financially to the celebration and define the level of investment you are comfortable making in this experience. This will allow you to shop more effectively for wedding day partners and save you lots of time as you go.

6) Draft Your Guest List

To know if your venue will work within your budget, you will need a solid guest list first. Do this before you begin your venue search.

7) Set the Date

Identify your availability, preferred season, and dates to celebrate.

8) Book Your Venue

Once you have considered your options and confirmed they are within budget, it’s time to reserve your venue.

9) Hire a Wedding Planner!

Hire an experienced wedding professional to bring your wedding vendor team together and bring your vision to life.

Featured photo by Cuppa Photography.

How Early Should I Book My Wedding Venue?

Couples often ask me how early they should book their wedding venue. Of course, this all depends on a number of factors:

  1. How long would you like the engagement period to be?
  2. Do you have life commitments (school, work, vacation, moving, home purchase) that need to be factored in to your timing?
  3. Do you have a preferred season or special date on which you wish to be wed?
  4. And related to the date, what kind of experience are you looking to offer your guests attending your wedding and what seasonal aesthetic are you seeking for your celebration?

Once you have decided on these factors, consider this timeline before you book your wedding venue and set the date for your French’s Point wedding.

Before You Choose Your Wedding Date

Planning a wedding takes a lot of time. First, you and your fiancé need to agree on your priorities and wedding budget. Then the bulk of active wedding planning can be achieved within three to four months of the wedding with the guidance from an experienced, professional wedding planner. Additional time for planning can be necessary for guests traveling to your destination wedding, to arrange flights, travel and lodging. So, considering how much time it takes to plan the wedding, may determine how far in advance you reserve your wedding venue.

Dates from June to October fill quickly, so…reserve your wedding venue as soon as you [can]!

Dates from June to October fill quickly, so if you are committed to one specific date or dates in this window, you would be best suited to reserve your wedding venue as soon as you know your date works for all the key parties for your celebration. Our typical clients book on average between two years to nine months before the wedding, with most booking 14 months prior to their date. As you can see, they booked their wedding venue quite early on in the planning process.

If you want to know if your wedding date is available at French’s Point, give me a call at (207) 567-3650 or send me an email at info@fpmaine.com!

How Do I Make Lodging Blocks?

Almost every wedding that takes place at French’s Point is a family affair for our clients. With such a momentous occasion to look forward to, it is very common for the family to offer their assistance as wedding plans are being made. So, oftentimes parents and other family and friends participate in wedding planning at various points in the process. Many hands make light work, right? We find that many mothers of the bride and grooms, in particular, really want to help in some way. However, they don’t know exactly what they can do to help the happy couple with their plans, without overstepping the bounds of “helpful.” In this How Can I Help blog series, we will offer some ideas about how you can help your son or daughter and their partner with the planning. In this series, we offered ways you can assist with the Venue Search, plan the details of the Rehearsal Dinner, help coordinate the Farewell Brunch, and offer assistance on the Honeymoon Planning. This time, we will discuss how you can provide support through planning Lodging Blocks or Room Blocks at local accommodations.

#1 Where to Start: What kind of lodging do you need?

Talk to the Wedding Couple

Talk to the couple about their vision for their event-related to lodging. They may envision their guests staying in the lodging at French’s Point in combination with the other area rental cottages along Hersey Retreat Road, which leads into French’s Point or they may want a combination of these rentals as well as local inns, hotels and motels.

Who Will Stay at French’s Point?

French’s Point offers 19 guest rooms in 18 suites at French’s Point. There are 12 guest rooms at The Farm and there are 6 guest suites at The Retreat including one Family Suite that has a shared bath with a room with a queen bed and a room with two sets of bunk beds. Each suite has its own private bathroom. Check out the floor plans to The Farm and The Retreat for details. We suggest you determine who will occupy these 19 guest rooms before you do anything else. Typically, the guests that are nearest and dearest to the couple stay in these rooms, ie. immediate family and wedding party. Many couples want their weekend to feel like a wedding and a reunion/vacation nicely combined. This option offers that experience.

Rentals Closest to French’s Point

You can refer to the blog post series about the Rental Cottages of Hersey Retreat Road for details about some of the rental properties closest to French’s Point. For an extended stay, house rentals offer more amenities and are more affordable than nightly properties such as hotels and motels.

Hotels, Motels, and Inns

However, some guests may only be able to come for the night or two around the wedding, so a hotel or inn property may be a better option. There is a nice portfolio of nightly lodging properties near French’s Point of varying price points and styles. We suggest the newly renovated Belfast Harbor Inn, its sister property, the Yankee Clipper, or the luxury Belfast ay Inn & Suites. These properties offer a nice spectrum of options for guests.

PRO TIP: Consider setting up shuttle transportation for the wedding day to and from these local accommodations to ensure guests can enjoy themselves and safely get home at the end of the night.

Accommodations Guide

We provide our clients with our Accommodations Guide and the Area House Rental Guide. These resources offer information about the properties in the area that guests may have an interest in reserving for lodging.

#2 Next Steps: when and how to secure room blocks

When to Block Rooms

For events taking place at French’s Point between May and October, we encourage reserving rooms no later than three months in advance. For events on long weekends, we suggest reserving them as far as five or six months in advance.

PRO TIP: We suggest having lodging information on the wedding website before Save The Dates are sent, so guests can reserve their lodging and begin planning their time with you for a weekend of fun and memory-making!

 Contact the Property

Once you determine which properties you are most interested in suggesting to guests, contact the property. Most offer Room Block Rate Locks for large groups. This means they will offer a rate lock or reduced rate for rooms reserved within a room block. Some properties will offer a Room Block Hold but will require a credit card to hold the rooms and the card will be charged for unsecured rooms once you get to the expiration date of the Room Block Contract. House Rentals do not offer holds. You can still suggest these properties to guests.

Update the Wedding Website

Add the chosen lodging options, website link, contact details and a description to the wedding website or wedding app the couple are using for their event. We recommend including a suggested date by which the lodging should be reserved.

Learn more about French’s Point, we can’t wait to hear from you!

How Can I Help: Honeymoon Planning

Almost every wedding that takes place at French’s Point is a family affair for our clients. Often times parents and other family and friends participate in the wedding planning at various points in the process. Many hands make light work, right? With such a momentous occasion to look forward to, it is very common for the family to offer their assistance as wedding plans are being made. We find that many mothers of the bride and mothers of the groom, in particular, really want to help. However, they don’t know exactly what they can do to help the happy couple with their plans, without overstepping the bounds of “helpful.”

In this How Can I Help? blog series, we will offer some ideas about how you can help your son or daughter and their partner with the planning. In a prior post in this series, we offered ways you can assist with the Venue Search, thoughts on how you can assist with a Rehearsal Dinner or Welcome Reception and ideas to help them plan their Farewell Brunch. This time, we invited Wendy Dessler to discuss how you can provide support regarding the honeymoon planning.

What can you do to help plan the honeymoon?

If your son or daughter is preparing for their wedding, you probably feel pulled in many directions at once. You want to help, but unless you are a professional wedding planner, you probably do not know where to begin. The honeymoon is a great starting point. This is something that should be planned early (in order to get the prices and packages that are most desired). Parents often do not realize how much they can help in this area. But once it is done, the bride and groom are elated.

Where to Start?

Ask the couple for a list of places they are considering for the honeymoon. Be sure to inquire about the budget, dates, and any special activities they really want to do. Now you can begin by researching the different honeymoon packages that are available in their selected locations. You can gather information on the weather, activities, hotel, car rental, food, and all-inclusive travel packages.

Honeymoon Account

Set-up a wedding Plumfund account. This is an account that allows friends and family to use their computer to gift money to the wedding couple or by paying for special things like airfare or special dinners. This is the trend for modern weddings. People use their online accounts because they are easier and more convenient and free for the wedding couple.

…gift money to the wedding couple or by paying for special things like airfare or special dinners.

Honeymoon Registry

Once the honeymoon destination has been chosen, you can set up the honeymoon registry. Honeyfund is the most popular online registry. This site is also free and easy to use. Much like old fashion registries, you register the couple’s actual wants and needs. If there are items that come from an actual store, you can list them. You can also list the itinerary of the honeymoon. You can list what the couple really wants to do and see and their second choice. The site can be used to pay for their suite, car rental, and special events. Guests chip in to allow the couple to live their dreams.

Guests chip in to allow the couple to live their dreams.

At the end of the day, it will be the wedding couple which decides where to go and what to do. But you can help in so many ways. The job will be a lot less stressful for everyone involved.

Every job you take on gives the couple more time and relieves them of stress and fatigue. So when you say, “Tell me if you need anything,” offer some suggestions and the couple will be so grateful for the nudge in the right direction.

This is a way you can show the people in your life that you love and support them and want to send them into their new life stress-free.

Author Bio

Wendy Dessler

Wendy is a super-connector with Outreachmama.com and Toweringseo.com who helps businesses find their audience online through outreach, partnerships, and networking. She frequently writes about the latest advancements in digital marketing and focuses her efforts on developing customized blogger outreach plans depending on the industry and competition.

How Can I Help: Farewell Brunch

Almost every wedding that takes place at French’s Point is a family affair for our clients. Often times parents and other family and friends participate in the wedding planning at various points in the process. Many hands make light work, right? With such a momentous occasion to look forward to, it is very common for the family to offer their assistance as wedding plans are being made. We find that many mothers of the bride and mothers of the groom, in particular, really want to help. However, they don’t know exactly what they can do to help the happy couple with their plans, without overstepping the bounds of “helpful.”

In this How Can I Help? blog series, we will offer some ideas about how you can help your son or daughter and their partner with the planning. In a prior post in this series, we offered ways you can assist with the Venue Search and also thoughts on how you can assist with a Rehearsal Dinner or Welcome Reception. This time, we will discuss how you can provide support regarding the farewell brunch.

What is a Farewell Brunch?

A farewell brunch is a great way to have some relaxed, low-key time with friends and family after the wedding reception. It’s a wonderful opportunity to thank everyone for attending the wedding before bidding them farewell. Only 27% of our clients opted to host a farewell brunch in 2016, making it the least commonly included of festivity of the weekend wedding at French’s Point. There is certainly no expectation that you should host this event as part of a wedding celebration schedule, but if you and the happy couple decide that this event should be included on the weekend wedding itinerary, there are a few things to keep in mind while planning this event.

5 Things to Think About While Planning a Farewell Brunch

#1 Mind the Guest List 

Sure, it can be tempting to invite the whole wedding party, but the truth is after hours (or days) of mingling and hosting, the wedding couple might need to catch their breath and want to relax the next day. Talk to the couple and be sure you understand their desires around this event. Perhaps you keep this event small and include only the immediate family and wedding party as a way to thank your nearest and dearest for making the wedding possible. Also, keep in mind that not all of your guests will be able to attend the farewell brunch. Many will need to hit the road to catch flights or make the drive back home. If you invite all of your guests to attend, expect 75% or fewer to attend, unless this event was included on formal invitations with an RSVP required.

#2 Consider the Time

As mentioned, some of your guests will want to get up and get on the road the day after the wedding, so consider a drop-by event that accommodates the early risers as well as the slow-to-roll guests. We find 8 a.m. to noon is a good timeframe for this style of event. Guests can come grab a bite and a cup of coffee, say goodbye and head home. If you would prefer a more formal brunch with a full meal, 9 a.m. to 11 a.m. tends to be an ideal time for this event. If you opt for this route, be sure to include this event on your wedding website and weekend itinerary. Some host locations, and even caterers, will require a headcount for an event of this nature, so this style of event may require an invitation.

#3 Set the Menu

When planning, many couples can’t imagine being hungry the day after a wedding feast but trust us, the newlyweds and their guests will wake up the next morning feeling famished from all the dancing and energy they have exerted on the big day! So really think through the brunch menu. After a night of drinking, be sure to include good sources of protein (eggs, yogurt, and of course BACON!) and hydration (through juice, fruit and certainly COFFEE!). For a drop-by event, we suggest portable menu items like delicious breakfast sandwiches, fruit and yogurt parfait cups to-go, and serve juice and coffee in disposable cups so they can take it for the road. We have had Urban Sugar bring their donut truck to serve hot, fresh donuts for a quick but delicious brunch. They were a huge hit! For a full brunch, consider either a simple buffet of quiche, cut fruit, yogurt and bagels. For a full menu for a more formal event serve eggs benedict, waffles, or blueberry pancakes, sausage, bacon, steel-cut oatmeal with brown sugar, pastry, muffins, juice, coffee, and mimosas and bellinis! Certainly, either route you opt for with the brunch, no one will go home hungry.

#4 Location, location, location

You can host a farewell brunch open to the whole guest list right here at French’s Point! Or consider hosting it at a restaurant located in one of the local hotels where many of the wedding guests will stay. Both of these alternatives are convenient for the guests and easy for you. A drop-by brunch can also be hosted at Beach Rose Farm or one of the larger rental cottages. Just be sure to consider the parking limitations and be mindful of the guest count restrictions at these settings. Always check with the property owner first to get permission.

#5 Keep It Simple

Above all else, we suggest you do not worry about decor, or concern yourself by offering a fancy meal. Keep it simple, remember these tips, and have a great time!

Click here for more in our How Can I Help series. Featured photo by Emilie Inc.

Resource Guide for French’s Point Couples 2017

Here at French’s Point, our main goal is to make sure you have the wedding of your dreams. This isn’t just something we say, we actively work to ensure that you have everything you need to organize and produce a wedding celebration that your guests will enjoy and that ultimately reflects who you are as a couple. To that end, we’ve created this detailed resource guide with 25 pages packed with useful area resources for your enjoyment and information.

25 Pages of Midcoast Maine Resources

In our Resource Guide for French’s Point Couples, you’ll find the following.

  • Restaurants
  • Family entertainment
  • Schooner and sailing adventures
  • State Parks
  • Golf courses
  • Ferry services
  • Art galleries and museums
  • Chambers of Commerce
  • Beer and wine tasting rooms
  • Nature centers
  • Lighthouses
  • Outdoor recreational activities like: biking, canoeing, and kayaking
  • Other recreational activities like: zip lining, climbing, whitewater rafting, and yoga
  • Fishing
  • Horse stables and carriage rides
  • Spas and salons
  • Airports
  • Transportation services like: limos, busses, taxis and rental cars
  • Hospitals
  • Moorings and yacht clubs
  • Farmers’ Markets and grocery stores

We’ve tried to anticipate all of your needs and have gathered all of that information into a downloadable resource guide. Please let us know if there is anything else we can do to make your French’s Point wedding amazing!