Wedding Day Woes – 5 Things That Take More Time Than You Think

Our dear friend, Maria Northcott, the owner of A Sweet Start, travels the State of Maine as the most wonderful wedding officiate. She provides her couples with meaningful, customized, worry-free wedding ceremonies, that are full of love! We adore collaborating with Maria. She is a pro with a huge heart for her clients and the team of wedding vendors that bring their celebrations to life, and it really shows.

Maria and I recently created a list of 5 Things That Take More Time Than You Think On Your Wedding Day. Ask your wedding planner to include these surprisingly time-consuming elements in your wedding day timeline to ensure the festivities flow with ease. Allowing time for them in your day and avoiding the surprise is essential to make sure the day runs smoothly.

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5 Things That Take More Time Than You Think

9 Things To Do After You’re Engaged

Maybe you’re newly engaged, or perhaps you expect your special someone might pop the question any time. Here’s what to do after you say “Yes!”

1) You’re Engaged, Soak It In

Take the time to soak in the moment and revel in the love and joy of this special moment. This is the only time you’re going to experience being engaged, so savor every second.

2) Share The News

Make the time to share the big news about your engagement with your nearest and dearest over a phone call, FaceTime or Skype. To avoid hurt feelings, don’t share the news on your social streams until you’ve told those closest to you.

3) Get Engagement Ring Insurance

Get insurance for that beautiful engagement ring.

4) Set Priorities

Sit down with your beloved over coffee or cocktails and discuss the vision of your wedding experience. Determine your mutual priorities before you start scheduling tours or making plans. Place the things you agree on at the top of the list and come to an agreement of the placement of the other items on the list. You will be so glad you did.  

5) Define a Wedding Budget

Talk with the members of your tribe that may be contributing financially to the celebration and define the level of investment you are comfortable making in this experience. This will allow you to shop more effectively for wedding day partners and save you lots of time as you go.

6) Draft Your Guest List

To know if your venue will work within your budget, you will need a solid guest list first. Do this before you begin your venue search.

7) Set the Date

Identify your availability, preferred season, and dates to celebrate.

8) Book Your Venue

Once you have considered your options and confirmed they are within budget, it’s time to reserve your venue.

9) Hire a Wedding Planner!

Hire an experienced wedding professional to bring your wedding vendor team together and bring your vision to life.

Featured photo by Cuppa Photography.

How Early Should I Book My Wedding Venue?

Couples often ask me how early they should book their wedding venue. Of course, this all depends on a number of factors:

  1. How long would you like the engagement period to be?
  2. Do you have life commitments (school, work, vacation, moving, home purchase) that need to be factored in to your timing?
  3. Do you have a preferred season or special date on which you wish to be wed?
  4. And related to the date, what kind of experience are you looking to offer your guests attending your wedding and what seasonal aesthetic are you seeking for your celebration?

Once you have decided on these factors, consider this timeline before you book your wedding venue and set the date for your French’s Point wedding.

Before You Choose Your Wedding Date

Planning a wedding takes a lot of time. First, you and your fiancé need to agree on your priorities and wedding budget. Then the bulk of active wedding planning can be achieved within three to four months of the wedding with the guidance from an experienced, professional wedding planner. Additional time for planning can be necessary for guests traveling to your destination wedding, to arrange flights, travel and lodging. So, considering how much time it takes to plan the wedding, may determine how far in advance you reserve your wedding venue.

Dates from June to October fill quickly, so…reserve your wedding venue as soon as you [can]!

Dates from June to October fill quickly, so if you are committed to one specific date or dates in this window, you would be best suited to reserve your wedding venue as soon as you know your date works for all the key parties for your celebration. Our typical clients book on average between two years to nine months before the wedding, with most booking 14 months prior to their date. As you can see, they booked their wedding venue quite early on in the planning process.

If you want to know if your wedding date is available at French’s Point, give me a call at (207) 567-3650 or send me an email at!

How Do I Make Lodging Blocks?

Almost every wedding that takes place at French’s Point is a family affair for our clients. With such a momentous occasion to look forward to, it is very common for the family to offer their assistance as wedding plans are being made. So, oftentimes parents and other family and friends participate in wedding planning at various points in the process. Many hands make light work, right? We find that many mothers of the bride and grooms, in particular, really want to help in some way. However, they don’t know exactly what they can do to help the happy couple with their plans, without overstepping the bounds of “helpful.” In this How Can I Help blog series, we will offer some ideas about how you can help your son or daughter and their partner with the planning. In this series, we offered ways you can assist with the Venue Search, plan the details of the Rehearsal Dinner, help coordinate the Farewell Brunch, and offer assistance on the Honeymoon Planning. This time, we will discuss how you can provide support through planning Lodging Blocks or Room Blocks at local accommodations.

#1 Where to Start: What kind of lodging do you need?

Talk to the Wedding Couple

Talk to the couple about their vision for their event-related to lodging. They may envision their guests staying in the lodging at French’s Point in combination with the other area rental cottages along Hersey Retreat Road, which leads into French’s Point or they may want a combination of these rentals as well as local inns, hotels and motels.

Who Will Stay at French’s Point?

French’s Point offers 19 guest rooms in 18 suites at French’s Point. There are 12 guest rooms at The Farm and there are 6 guest suites at The Retreat including one Family Suite that has a shared bath with a room with a queen bed and a room with two sets of bunk beds. Each suite has its own private bathroom. Check out the floor plans to The Farm and The Retreat for details. We suggest you determine who will occupy these 19 guest rooms before you do anything else. Typically, the guests that are nearest and dearest to the couple stay in these rooms, ie. immediate family and wedding party. Many couples want their weekend to feel like a wedding and a reunion/vacation nicely combined. This option offers that experience.

Rentals Closest to French’s Point

You can refer to the blog post series about the Rental Cottages of Hersey Retreat Road for details about some of the rental properties closest to French’s Point. For an extended stay, house rentals offer more amenities and are more affordable than nightly properties such as hotels and motels.

Hotels, Motels, and Inns

However, some guests may only be able to come for the night or two around the wedding, so a hotel or inn property may be a better option. There is a nice portfolio of nightly lodging properties near French’s Point of varying price points and styles. We suggest the newly renovated Belfast Harbor Inn, its sister property, the Yankee Clipper, or the luxury Belfast ay Inn & Suites. These properties offer a nice spectrum of options for guests.

PRO TIP: Consider setting up shuttle transportation for the wedding day to and from these local accommodations to ensure guests can enjoy themselves and safely get home at the end of the night.

Accommodations Guide

We provide our clients with our Accommodations Guide and the Area House Rental Guide. These resources offer information about the properties in the area that guests may have an interest in reserving for lodging.

#2 Next Steps: when and how to secure room blocks

When to Block Rooms

For events taking place at French’s Point between May and October, we encourage reserving rooms no later than three months in advance. For events on long weekends, we suggest reserving them as far as five or six months in advance.

PRO TIP: We suggest having lodging information on the wedding website before Save The Dates are sent, so guests can reserve their lodging and begin planning their time with you for a weekend of fun and memory-making!

 Contact the Property

Once you determine which properties you are most interested in suggesting to guests, contact the property. Most offer Room Block Rate Locks for large groups. This means they will offer a rate lock or reduced rate for rooms reserved within a room block. Some properties will offer a Room Block Hold but will require a credit card to hold the rooms and the card will be charged for unsecured rooms once you get to the expiration date of the Room Block Contract. House Rentals do not offer holds. You can still suggest these properties to guests.

Update the Wedding Website

Add the chosen lodging options, website link, contact details and a description to the wedding website or wedding app the couple are using for their event. We recommend including a suggested date by which the lodging should be reserved.

Learn more about French’s Point, we can’t wait to hear from you!

Wedding Day Emergency Kit

Let’s start off by saying, we hope everything on your wedding day goes off without a hitch. However, with all of the logistics to think about, the many people participating in the event, the dresses and shoes and undergarments, not to mention the emotions involved in a wedding, it’s best to be ready in case something comes up that needs to be fixed, cleaned, pinned or replaced in a pinch.

That’s why we suggest you have a “Wedding Day Emergency Kit” close at hand. The kit should be filled with solutions for every little thing that can come up on the wedding day. Over the years, we’ve experienced several wedding day emergencies, most of which we solved with items from our trusty kit. Here are a few of the most common issues we’ve solved:

  • Soiled bridesmaids dresses (stain sticks)
  • Broken buttons (small sewing kit)
  • Unruly hair (hair spray + bobby pins)
  • Nerves (alcohol + snacks)
  • Difficult dress buttons (crochet hook)
  • Broken boutonnieres (extra pins + matching ribbon)
  • Broken hem (hem tape/double sided tape)
  • Dead cell phone battery (charger + battery boost)
  • Pet fur/traveling lint (lint roller/brush)
  • Missing vows/speech (send it to us first!)

Complete List of Wedding Day Emergency Kit Items

Here are some of the items you’ll want to stock in your Wedding Day Emergency Kit:

Allergy medicine
Baby powder
Baby wipes/antibacterial wipes
Black shoe polish
Blister treatment
Blotting papers
Bobby pins
Body lotion (for dry elbows)
Body tape to secure straps
Bottles of water
Breath mints
Bug spray
Clear Deodorant
Clear nail polish (for stocking runs)
Club Soda (For spot remover)
Corsage pins
Dental floss/toothpicks
Energy drinks or shots
Epi pen
Extension cord and phone charger
Extra earring backs
Extra panty hose
Extra undergarments
Eye drops
Granola bars or other easy-to-eat snacks
Hair pins/ponytail holder
Hair spray
Hand sanitizer
Hand towelettes
Hem tape
Krazy Glue (for nail fixes, shoe heels, decorations, even jewels)
Linen handkerchief
Lint roller
Makeup (for touch-ups) including face power or oil remover pads
Makeup remover
Mini first aid kit
Mini sewing kit (with needles, buttons, and white, brown, black, navy, ivory and nude thread)
Nail file
Pain reliever
Pen and paper
Pepto Bismol or Imodium tablets
Personal medications for wedding party members
Safety pins
Scotch tape
Small folding scissors
Smelling salts (while we don’t expect anyone to faint, it has been known to happen)
Spot remover (we love Shout Wipes)
Stain remover pen
Static-cling spray or dryer sheets
Straws (so you can stay hydrated without messing up your lipstick)
Super glue
Tampons/sanitary napkins
Toothbrush and toothpaste
White and black duct tape
White chalk (to cover up any last minute smudges or smears on your wedding dress)

The most likely scenario is that you’ll plan for all possible contingencies and then won’t need to dip into your kit at all. In that case, turn your Wedding Day Emergency Kit into your Roadside Emergency Kit or gift it to a frined who is getting married after your big day.

How Can I Help: Honeymoon Planning

Almost every wedding that takes place at French’s Point is a family affair for our clients. Often times parents and other family and friends participate in the wedding planning at various points in the process. Many hands make light work, right? With such a momentous occasion to look forward to, it is very common for the family to offer their assistance as wedding plans are being made. We find that many mothers of the bride and mothers of the groom, in particular, really want to help. However, they don’t know exactly what they can do to help the happy couple with their plans, without overstepping the bounds of “helpful.”

In this How Can I Help? blog series, we will offer some ideas about how you can help your son or daughter and their partner with the planning. In a prior post in this series, we offered ways you can assist with the Venue Search, thoughts on how you can assist with a Rehearsal Dinner or Welcome Reception and ideas to help them plan their Farewell Brunch. This time, we invited Wendy Dessler to discuss how you can provide support regarding the honeymoon planning.

What can you do to help plan the honeymoon?

If your son or daughter is preparing for their wedding, you probably feel pulled in many directions at once. You want to help, but unless you are a professional wedding planner, you probably do not know where to begin. The honeymoon is a great starting point. This is something that should be planned early (in order to get the prices and packages that are most desired). Parents often do not realize how much they can help in this area. But once it is done, the bride and groom are elated.

Where to Start?

Ask the couple for a list of places they are considering for the honeymoon. Be sure to inquire about the budget, dates, and any special activities they really want to do. Now you can begin by researching the different honeymoon packages that are available in their selected locations. You can gather information on the weather, activities, hotel, car rental, food, and all-inclusive travel packages.

Honeymoon Account

Set-up a wedding Plumfund account. This is an account that allows friends and family to use their computer to gift money to the wedding couple or by paying for special things like airfare or special dinners. This is the trend for modern weddings. People use their online accounts because they are easier and more convenient and free for the wedding couple.

…gift money to the wedding couple or by paying for special things like airfare or special dinners.

Honeymoon Registry

Once the honeymoon destination has been chosen, you can set up the honeymoon registry. Honeyfund is the most popular online registry. This site is also free and easy to use. Much like old fashion registries, you register the couple’s actual wants and needs. If there are items that come from an actual store, you can list them. You can also list the itinerary of the honeymoon. You can list what the couple really wants to do and see and their second choice. The site can be used to pay for their suite, car rental, and special events. Guests chip in to allow the couple to live their dreams.

Guests chip in to allow the couple to live their dreams.

At the end of the day, it will be the wedding couple which decides where to go and what to do. But you can help in so many ways. The job will be a lot less stressful for everyone involved.

Every job you take on gives the couple more time and relieves them of stress and fatigue. So when you say, “Tell me if you need anything,” offer some suggestions and the couple will be so grateful for the nudge in the right direction.

This is a way you can show the people in your life that you love and support them and want to send them into their new life stress-free.

Author Bio

Wendy Dessler

Wendy is a super-connector with and who helps businesses find their audience online through outreach, partnerships, and networking. She frequently writes about the latest advancements in digital marketing and focuses her efforts on developing customized blogger outreach plans depending on the industry and competition.